To the rather bitter, judgmental, random “Christian” woman from the ice cream shop and anyone else who this applies to:
I found it quite difficult to not overhear your conversation as you were speaking quite loudly and pretty much directly at me with your loud tone and deadly stare. Though I get the feeling that your intentions were to hurt me with your cruel and close-minded words, I’ll have you know that you did not. Actually, you did me a favor. That’s right, instead of harming me, your words motivated me.
See, when I walked into the store with my two beautiful children, I did not intend on interrupting your life and I most certainly did not ask for your opinion about mine. You know, the way I was raised, I smile at strangers and say hello, good morning, good evening, etc… you however, didn’t even bother to reply (though you ever so proudly boasted to be coming out of church from the Easter Sunday service) 😂😏
So as we sat down, merely inches away from each other, you and your friend brought up the topic about high school graduations and then college. Again, I was there to enjoy some ice cream on a hot Sunday afternoon with my children and nothing else. Somehow, I ended up being the hot topic.
You went on to say that women who have kids before having a degree can never or rarely finish school because it’s impossible and so much more nonsense that I can’t even remember. (Y’all at this point this woman was looking into my soul) haha. Well, bless your heart!
Honey, if only you knew that I’ve already beat your pathetic logic. I’m actually extremely successful in school, even more so than when I was single and with no kids! THEY gave me the motivation that I have now to do so well.
I wanted to say something, but I knew it wouldn’t be worth it. You already had your mind made up, right? So instead, I used your words to fuel me. See, what you don’t know is that I actually have a list of things that ignorant people like yourself have said to me or about me in regards to being a young mother. I keep that on a pretty pink board which I made. It hangs on my wall in the room where I do my homework and study.
The list of nasty words and insults others have said hang there along with pictures of my children, my biggest motivators. Whenever I feel like I’m giving up, I look up at that board and I feel empowered. I get back in the game and give it my all to prove you and everyone else wrong and most importantly, to make my children proud.
So, this is not a diss. In fact, it’s nothing like that at all. This is a thank you to you and ALL others who like you, give an opinion without being asked for it. Without those outbursts, I wouldn’t have as many motivations hanging from my wall.
The one that you graciously added helped me work even harder to earn my 98 on a statistics test (along with all my other A’s) I went home and prepared myself for that test after leaving the ice cream shop. Thank you so much! 😂❤️
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